Get state deltas without filters (#2810)

This makes the following changes:
- get state deltas without the user supplied filter, so we can actually
"calculate" state transitions
- closes `stmt` when using SQLite
- Adds presence for users who newly joined a room, even if the syncing
user already knows about the presence status (should fix
https://github.com/matrix-org/complement/pull/516)

syncapi/streams/stream_presence.go

@@ -121,7 +121,8 @@ func (p *PresenceStreamProvider) IncrementalSync(
 			prevPresence := pres.(*types.PresenceInternal)
 			currentlyActive := prevPresence.CurrentlyActive()
 			skip := prevPresence.Equals(presence) && currentlyActive && req.Device.UserID != presence.UserID
-			if skip {
+			_, membershipChange := req.MembershipChanges[presence.UserID]
+			if skip && !membershipChange {
 				req.Log.Tracef("Skipping presence, no change (%s)", presence.UserID)
 				continue
 			}